Networking isn't working for me. What am I doing wrong?
I have been an artist for about 6 years and find that I'm just not getting ahead. People tell me to network and I have, but it's not paying off at all. What am I doing wrong?
Most people do not know how to network properly. If you are handing out cards and telling people about yourself and what you do, you are not networking as effectively as you could be.
If you walk away from a networking encounter and the other person knows more about you than you know about them, you have probably failed to make a good impression. People like to talk about themselves, what they do, their families, and their hobbies. They would normally rather talk than listen. So ask questions and listen, find out what the other person needs, and take mental notes. Whatever you do, don't name drop, or go on and on about your resume. Nobody cares who you know or who you have worked with in the past.
The real key to networking is that you have to really be interested in the other person and you have to like people in general. If you don't, you might as well stay home because people are intuitive. People know if you really are interested in them and what they do or are just playing the game.
How do you like and find an interest in people that you are meeting briefly at a party or event? You have to listen to them, and find common ground. They have problems just like you do. They are trying to make a living just like you are. Whoever you are talking to is someone's child, someone's parent perhaps, someone's best friend, someone's spouse. They have suffered losses, disappointments, tragedies and triumphs just as you have. Keep this in mind when you talk to someone.
When you know a lot about someone and you are interested in them, they feel like they know you. This will result in a memory of you when an occasion comes up where they may need your services. Given two talented choices, who are you going to refer when you have a job to refer someone to? The artist that spent 15 minutes telling you she worked with Lady Gaga, Matt Damon, and the Queen of England — or the artist who knows your children's names and your favorite movie?